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It is a little known fact that fun is one of the best kept secrets of success!
The ability to have fun in every situation makes one more
successful and more relaxed whether it be at home or at work and relationships!
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Silly things people think about fun :
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- Work cannot be fun... people who enjoy their work and see it as fun are generally
very successful at their jobs
- Having fun is immature and a sign of irresponsibilty...fun is for people of all ages!!
and humor is ranked amongst the most healthy and mature ways to deal with things!!
- "Real" fun just happens...fun can be found most anywhere...and can be made to happen!!
- No pain, no gain...just because it is fun does not mean it can't be profitable or rewarding
- You can't have fun in a negative environment...fun can transform the environment...
one just has to be more creative in some settings...
- I'd have fun if only he or she wouldn't spoil it...it is a common thing to blame another person...
it is more fun to take responsibilty for oneself and do what it takes to have enjoyment, pleasure and fun!!
Freud had some pretty good ideas!
His aphorism of work, play
and love as the yardsticks for evaluating a person's emotional
health is standard teaching in the helping professions, and widely used
despite all the fancy "objective" tests used nowadays. Freud subdivided the mind or self
into special interest groups (called the superego, the ego and the id) which must
cooperate with each other in a spirit of peaceful negotiation,
and respect and value for all the
parts of self! Think of the parental superego as your
inner parent, the ego as your inner adult and the id as the inner child.
Don't let that inner parent spoil all your fun! Let the child within
come out and play!
Psychological and emotional wellness require all the parts of the self to be
in peace. Shifting the inner parent from thou shalts and thou shalt nots to more of a coaching and encouraging, nurturing role
can be helpful. The inner child can be prone to tantrums, fits, rages and poutiness.
Some people spend a lifetime thinking about problems, processing their problems
when they could be out playing! Let the child be creative, spontaneous, silly, playful.
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How to plan to be spontaneous!?!
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One cannot really plan spontaneity, but the silly paradox is fun! However, it is possible plan times to play and have fun
and built it into one's existing schedule of course.
Amusement, enjoyment , pleasure, play, adventures and other forms of fun contribute to healing the body and the
mind. Beta endorphins are produced by the brain during activities that are pleasant.
Make a point to bring fun into everything you do... let it permeate your feelings, your activities, your
attitudes...this may take some practice, so have fun working at it and poke fun at yourself when you find yourself being oh so serious and intense about things!
Love is healing partly because it is so much fun! Start by giving love and before you know it you will be receiving love also!
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Ideas for nice things to do for people ...
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Send a
gift of e-mail flowers or perhaps a
virtual bouquet
or some virtual flowers
and this: Send Flowers Online
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How NOT to have fun . . .A tutorial
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Put yourself on a smile restriction. NO SMILING UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES! (dirty looks only to be used with caution: some people smile in response to them and you might accidentally smile in returen.... YIKES! )
Do not daydream, EVER! Stay in "reality" at all times. NO FANTASIES or ILLUSIONS!!!
Be self conscious, dwell on your faults, be negative and pessimistic...cultivate the fine art of
thinking ruts unless you
prefer to dabble in logical fallacies. NO happy thought. Analyze everything.
Avoid novelty, systematically reject new ways of thinking or doing , leave nothing unplanned, agonize over every detail!
Carefully avoid all activities that might turn out to be fun.
Spoil other people's fun...if you can't have any, why should they, right???
Avoid people, especially friends. Hugs, eye winking, playing footsy and all forms of affection could lead to fun
Be as physically inactive as possible...DON'T MOVE AT ALL if you can
help it.
Stay clean...don't get dirty, scuzzy, smelly or sweaty. Excursions in
nature are therefore OUT OF THE QUESTION.
Don't listen to music. And if you do, don't move dance sway or tap
your foot.
Eat bland tasteless food. Drink room temperature tap water and never anything else.
Never miss an opportunity to gripe and whine.
If you haven't found something wrong in a given situation you haven't looked hard enough!
Be stingy with your money. Count every penny. Buy necessities only.
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A few links, just for fun!
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Romance is not reserved for couples! In the links that follow try
substituting where appropriate the word
"loved one" and that could be a
parent, a child , a friend . . .well I think you get the idea!
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